Canada's changing family

Globe and Mail Update and Canadian Press

TORONTO — The redefinition of family continues apace in Canada, with the latest household figures from the 2006 census showing a significant increase in the number of same-sex couples and a first-ever count of same-sex marriages.

At the same time, there are more common-law families, more childless couples, more people living alone and a greater number of single-parent households in Canada than ever before.

The census counted 45,345 same-sex couples, up 32 per cent from 2001, representing 0.6 per cent of all couples in Canada. Not surprisingly, half of these couples lived in the three largest census metropolitan areas: Montreal, Toronto and Vancouver.

Statistics Canada allowed census respondents for the first time to indicate if they were in a same-sex marriage. A total of 7,465 couples said they were.

About nine per cent of Canadians in a same-sex relationship had children under 24 years old living in the home.

The census also found:

• There were 6,105,910 married-couple families, an increase of only 3.5 per cent from 2001, accounting for 68.8 per cent of all census families.

• In contrast, the number of common-law-couple families surged 18.9 per cent to 1,376,865, or 15.5 per cent of all census families. Only two decades ago, that proportion stood at 7.2 per cent.

• The number of lone-parent families increased 7.8 per cent to 1,414,060.

• The number of one-person households increased 11.8 per cent, more than twice as fast as the 5.3 per cent increase for the total population in private households.

• The number of households consisting of couples without children aged 24 years and under increased 11.2 per cent from 2001.

“The overall picture certainly is one of an increasing diversification of our families and households,” said Doug Norris, senior-vice president and chief demographer at Environics Analytics.

“For the first time ever, we've got more couples without children than with children, we've got over a quarter of our households with one person only,” he said.

Although the increase in same-sex couples is significant, it was not unexpected.

Under-reporting is common on first-time census questions: The number of same-sex couples identified by the Australian census doubled from 1996 to 2001; the United States saw an increase of 300 per cent from 1990 to 2000.

Moreover, Canada has seen broad policy changes on same-sex couple rights and entitlements since the last census.

Adoption, pension benefits, child-care tax breaks and a host of other rights were awarded to gay and lesbian couples in the late 1990s and early 2000s. Canada became the fourth country in the world to legalize same-sex marriage in July, 2005, after several provincial courts ruled that the government's definition of marriage – the union of a man and a woman to the exclusion of all others – was unconstitutional.

Experts say these policy changes and greater societal tolerance made it easier for same-sex couples to self identify on the 2006 census.

“Two things are happening,” said David Rayside, director of the Mark S. Bonham Centre for Sexual Diversity Studies at University of Toronto.

“As public acceptance slowly increases for ... the recognition of homosexuality in general, and for same-sex couples in particular, there are more people in a broader range of communities who can actually imagine living together,” he said.

“But also, there is an increase in the proportion of people who are prepared to say that they are living together in a conjugal relationship.”

The census appears to skew low on the number of same-sex marriages. According to Canadians for Equal Marriage, 12,438 marriage licences had been issued to same-sex couples by the end of summer 2006, based on provincial data and estimates.

Some critics attribute the discrepancy to the way the census question was asked. Couples were instructed to check the “Other” category at the bottom of a list of relationships, rather than the box marked “Husband or wife.”

“The census, we believe, made an error and they were unfair to married same-sex couples,” said Helen Kennedy, executive director of Egale Canada, a gay rights advocacy group that organized a petition last year and urged couples to ignore the “Other” box.

Mr. Norris of Environics said the “other” category could have resulted in lower numbers, but that it's difficult to say because the data are so new and there's no benchmark.

Michael Leshner, one of the first Canadians to legally marry his same-sex partner, Michael Stark, in a June, 2003, civil ceremony, said it will be many years before the census accurately reflects the totality of gay and lesbian families.

“A lot of people do not feel comfortable, still, coming out on official government sites for a variety of reasons,” Mr. Leshner said. “Social change, even within the gay and lesbian movement, takes a long, long time.”

Still, Mr. Stark said the early results are encouraging for he and his husband, who spent many years fighting for the same rights as heterosexual couples and who, only four years ago, were among just a handful of married same-sex couples in the entire country.

“There's a certain satisfaction knowing people are taking advantage of that right to get married,” he said.

Meanwhile, the number of traditional nuclear families gave up even more ground to lone-parent families, which make up a record one in four Canadian families with children.

Evidence of the lone-parent phenomenon reaches back to the early 20th century, but the reasons more and more Canadian children are being raised by only one parent are drastically different than they were 75 years ago.

Regardless of the cause, poverty is a common thread.

“The problem is that you have only one breadwinner, when that breadwinner is employed at all,” said Anne-Marie Ambert, professor emeritus of sociology at York University in Toronto.

In 2005, the median household income for two-parent families in Canada was $67,600. For lone-parent families it was $30,000 — meaning half of all single-parent families were bringing in less that amount annually.

There were 1.4 million lone-parent families — 26 per cent of all families with children — last year. That's up some eight per cent from five years earlier. While the vast majority of such households (80 per cent) were headed by women, the number of lone-parent families headed by men was up 15 per cent.

More than 2.1 million children are now living in a lone-parent family.

Mr. Norris said one census finding he found particularly striking was that the number of women living with a spouse or partner peaked in their late thirties, but didn't peak for men until the late sixties. In other words, far more women in their fifties and sixties are living single than are men.

“As a result of separations and divorce, women are not forming unions again,” he said.

“When those relationships break up, women tend, for whatever reason, not to get into a second relationship. They live on their own, or perhaps as single parents, but they're not forming a couple. They are not remarrying, not going into a common law union to nearly the extent that males do, and that gap widens with age.”

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Our commentary in the Globe and Mail

September 12, 2007

  1. You (Ottawa Mens Centre.com, from Ottawa Home of Canada's corrupt family court, Canada) wrote: Same-sex means disaster for Canada. Fact is, how can children learn what a real man and a real woman are when they grow up with two mummies or two dads.
    Canadian society since Trudeau has increasingly treating marriage as a bit of paper, its hip and cool to be gay, despite the fact that it takes a man a woman to create a child Canada’s parliament has failed to treat seriously, marriage between men and women, not a “same sex-union”.
    Canada has a declining birthrate. Russia for example recognizes the seriousness of the problem and promotes childbirth and even competitions with prizes such as a new car for winners. In Canada, we have an unofficial policy of male gender apartheid. Men are treated as second class human beings when it comes to parenting.
    Canada is failing to promote marriage and childbirth because for several generations, Canada has in effect being promoting marriage destruction. Canada needs, desperately needs a legal presumption of equal parenting after separation. Men are just too scared to have more children while our feminist judges treat women as scared cows and men as violent abusers.
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    1. You (Ottawa Mens Centre.com, from Ottawa Home of Canada's corrupt family court, Canada) wrote: 20 Million Canadian kids grow up without a father and Mr. Harper does not give a dam. If Mr. Harper really cared he would legislate a legal presumption of equal parenting after separation.
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      1. You (Ottawa Mens Centre.com, from Ottawa Home of Canada's corrupt family court, Canada) wrote: Fact is, a very large number or gay and lesbian couples don't fit what would be called normal personalities. Many are deeply troubled with mental health problems and or personality disorders that frequently result from childhood abuse. Women in particular, who were sexually abused as children who fail to deal with the abuse, withhold emotions and after the birth of a child suddenly decide that they can't have any men near their child in a paranoid unfounded fear that the child will be sexually abused as they were. That paranoia means one or more children will end up with one or two mothers while the fathers are frequently alienated. That destroys a sister, a mother and a grandmother, it robs children of paternal grandparents and extended paternal family. The same children grow up to be more likely to end up in family dysfunction, become a teen pregnancy or become involved in crime. Most Gays and lesbians can look like they are normal and functional to most people most of the time but not to everyone all the time. Canada needs to encourage same sex relationships, to encourage a positive birth rate, currently the 10% gay relationships are destroying Canada's future because it is a significant factor that causes our negative population rate. One way Canada can help is to legislate a mandatory presumption of equal parenting after divorce. www. OttawaMensCentre.com 613-797-3237 Most Gays and lesbians can look like they are normal and functional to most people most of the time but not to everyone all the time. Canada needs to encourage same sex relationships, to encourage a positive birth rate, currently the 10% gay relationships are destroying Canada's future because it is a significant factor that causes our negative population rate. One way Canada can help is to legislate a mandatory presumption of equal parenting after divorce. www. OttawaMensCentre.com 613-797-3237

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    1. You (Ottawa Mens Centre.com, from Ottawa Home of Canada's corrupt family court, Canada) wrote: Feminist lawyers acting for newly created lesbians in family court are a danger to Canada. They fabricate evidence, they ask judges to do indirectly what they cannot do directly. One of the worst is a lawyer called Lesley Kendall of the Kingston firm Cunningham Swan Carty Little & Bonham. Back in 2001 she did not like Justice W.G. Beatty ordering an expedited trial of custody because of previous fraud of another lesbian feminist lawyer Joanne A. Barber of Timmins who fabricated a written submission with a false admission of perjury that never happened. Lesley Kendal then fabricated a threat to herself and gave her own evidence while representing her mentally ill violent client in a motion to obtain a permanent restraining order banishing a father from Kingston to prevent litigation immediately after Justice Beatty cancelled an order that the same father was a vexatious litigant. While we have lawyers like Lesley Kendall fabricating evidence, Canada’s birth rate will continue to go down. Justice Denis Power actually issued that permanent restraining order and ordered draconian costs that later added up to $20,000 that must be paid before any motion can be heard regarding access. The mother then moved to Ottawa near the father and, Lesley Kendall refuses to allow access or remove the unnecessary fraudulently obtained restraining order. If you are looking for a feminist lawyer to fabricate evidence personally Kingston is the place to go. www.OttawaMensCentre.com 613-797-3237
    1. Gary O from Ontario, Canada writes: Jim Mohagan. It’s telling that none of our readers have yet picked up on your thread of state-sanctioned alienation of fathers. This ambivalence to the growing crisis in men’s daily lives is, in my opinion, due to combination of factors. First, the traditional propensity of men to suffer in silence and of society (men and women) to ignore men who experience loss of any kind. Society only takes notice of men who achieve, succeed and prosper. In a word we like our men when they are champions. For those in second place or last place for that matter we reserve the title of “losers”. The other main reason is that most of the men who should be here to write about their plight are not with us. Your statistics are correct about suicide and I will give you one more. 80% of all suicides are committed by men. This figure rises to over 90% as men age beyond retirement. Most stories of men who lose everything in divorce and most importantly their children are relegated to the back pages of the newspaper if that, and many times end in men taking their lives because they truly have no options: they have spent most or all of their savings fighting for custody of their children only to learn what you already know (that the entire family law regime is structured to the disadvantage of men) and are left with unsupportable support orders and just enough access to their children to keep them tied up in a life that makes it next to impossible to move on, create another family or otherwise improve their conditions. Those with no parents or family to eventually take them in when they don’t have enough to pay the rent for their one room basement apartment, have no choice but to take their own lives. This may sound highly exaggerated but I happen to know personally of a few men in this very situation. It would be interesting if readers here would talk about their experiences of paternal alienation or that of someone they know so that other readers could take note. Ladies need not be shy.

     

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