First your kids won't leave...

Nearly half of all adults in their 20s lived under their parents' roof last yearin 2006 - a 12-per-cent jump from 1986 - and experts say the reasons aren't entirely economic

From Thursday's Globe and Mail

Hi mom and dad, I'm home!

That refrain has become increasingly common in households in Canada, where census data released yesterday show nearly half of all adults aged 20 to 29 are shacking up with their parents.

Statistics Canada reported that 44 per cent of the roughly four million adults in that age range lived at their parental homes in 2006, representing an almost three-percentage-point jump from 2001 and a pronounced spike since 1986, when the figure was 32 per cent.

Among people aged 20 to 24, 60 per cent were living with their parents last year, up from 49 per cent two decades earlier. While that group accounted for most of the adults residing at home, its 11-per-cent growth over the past five years was outpaced by 25- to 29-year-olds, which ballooned 15 per cent.

"It's a really large change and evolution on that front," said Rosemary Bender, director general for social and demographic statistics at Statistics Canada.

Experts say many factors are at play, including immigrant cultural customs, shifting attitudes toward premarital relationships and parents' compassion for children recovering from unions gone sour or poor career choices.

But observers of the so-called boomerang phenomenon say the overarching reasons for the growing number of adults living at home are economic.

In some cases, the returning offspring - or the offspring that never left - may be struggling to pay off student loans or find work that can cover the skyrocketing costs of real estate.

This is particularly true in urban centres where the proportion of young adults living at home is highest. In Toronto, for instance, almost 58 per cent of adults in the age range live with their parents. In Vancouver, more than half do, a five-percentage-point upward shift from 2001.

"People are not looking at this situation with horror, nor are they passionately embracing it. It has become normal," said Monica Boyd, a professor of sociology at the University of Toronto, who has studied the issue.

"I think parents have realized that it is important to help launch the kids, and parents and kids will often view the return home or the staying home as part of a family project that ultimately will successfully launch the children."

Sisters Janine Myers, 25, a teacher, and Alana Johnston, 23, a comedian, are both relying on family residences until their financial situation improves enough to set out on their own. Neither pay rent, but say they do chores to earn their keep.

Ms. Johnston moved in with their grandmother in Toronto after returning from a two-year stint studying comedic acting in Chicago that she said honed her funny bone but left her broke.

"I came back with no money but I wanted to be here so I could work," said Ms. Johnston, who performs stand-up comedy in the Toronto area. "I don't get paid a lot so I'm trying to save money. A lot of my friends are doing it because we know it will pay off down the road."

Ms. Myers is temporarily living with their parents in Orangeville, Ont., while her husband finishes a graduate degree in England. He is scheduled to return this month and the couple plan to reside together on their own.

Both said their respective arrangements, while financially convenient and welcomed by their parents and grandmother, have been trying at times. They feel hemmed in by household rules that were set when they were teenagers and more socially dependent on the adults in their lives.

Dr. Boyd said the challenges faced by the sisters are common among adults who move home and the parents who take them in.

"For it to work well it certainly requires both the parent and the young adults to be grown up," Dr. Boyd said. "It's difficult for a parent who has a child come home to not act like a parent and difficult for a child coming home to not act like a child."

While the number of adult Canadian women living with their parents has grown, their numbers are dwarfed by those of men. The census shows that men aged 20 to 29 account for 57 per cent of the total.

"In some way, it is a kind of intergenerational help," said Céline LeBourdais, a sociology professor at Montreal's McGill University. "There are parents who would like to have their children leave home, but some studies show that parents are happy with them there.

"Once adolescence is behind, and they discover that they can have interesting, healthy relationships with their children, parents aren't pushing them away."

By the numbers

44

Percentage of adults aged

20 to 29 who lived at home

with their parents in 2006

57

Percentage of those adults

who are men

58

Percentage of Torontonians

aged 20 to 29 who live at home, the highest among the country's

metropolitan areas

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