Parental alienation centres in the United States are using unproven
"quackery" to deprogram children ordered into their care by well-meaning
Canadian judges, a leading Ontario child psychologist has charged.
Peter
Jaffe says the programs may even damage children by destroying overnight
their primary support bulwark: the alienating parent whose care they have
been under.
"It is not a good thing if a child has bonded to an alienating parent,
but disrupting that child and pulling them away from whatever sense of
security they have may end up being more harmful than good in the long run,"
said Dr. Jaffe, a professor at the University of Western Ontario in London.
"When you're going to provide a treatment, you have to know what the
unattended consequences or side effects are," he said. "You may be solving
one problem but creating a whole host of new problems."
The deprogramming issue erupted last week after a Toronto judge forcibly
removed three girls from their mother and sent them for treatment to a U.S.
centre in an undisclosed location. It was at least the third time that an
Ontario judge has taken the extreme measure in the past year.
The parental alienation centres, which operate in relative secrecy, in
part to avoid surprise visits by angry parents searching for children who
have been seized, is to be debated at an Ontario Bar Association conference
today.
Dr. Jaffe said the spate of judicial orders runs counter to a laudable
trend of granting children more rights. "It really doesn't matter whether
you are sending them to a locked ward of a hospital somewhere in
Pennsylvania or you are sending them to Disneyland, I think it's a
significant infringement on their rights to take a Canadian child and force
them to enter a treatment program in the U.S."
Sol Goldstein, a Toronto child psychiatrist familiar with the U.S.
programs, said they typically devote four or five days to intensive
discussion, visual presentations and "logic and kindness," to prod alienated
children into critical thinking. He said children also have opportunities to
spend relaxed, recreational time with the parent from whom they are
estranged.
"Nothing can change like that within a week," Dr. Goldstein added. "It's
like doing major surgery. The follow-up is crucial."
Donna Wowk, a Toronto family lawyer, agreed that while securing time away
from the parent who caused the alienation "is critical" to successfully
treating a child, relapses are a major risk. "You can have great counselling
sessions, but as soon as they are back with the alienating parent, it's all
undone," she said.
Toronto family lawyer Harold Niman, who represented a non-custodial
parent whose children were recently sent to a U.S. parental alienation
centre, conceded that much remains unknown about the treatment.
"There is no doubt this is uncharted territory," he said. "To a certain
extent, we don't know where this is all going to lead, but I think it's like
chicken soup. It can't hurt. It is something designed to be therapeutic for
the children, and I can't see how it could hurt.
"Part of what is going on is an effort to find a solution to a very
difficult problem. We are talking about a very, very narrow group of parents
and they are almost invariably dysfunctional. These are parents who are
toxic people."
Dr. Jaffe said that if the Ontario family court system were less
dysfunctional, children at risk of being alienated from a parent would be
identified and treated early.
"I'm not criticizing the judges," he said. "I understand their degree of
frustration. But these cases really are a monument to the failure of the
system to intervene early.
"There are bits and pieces in place in Ontario, but nobody is really in
charge of the system," Dr. Jaffe said.
Peter Jaffe would have the
children's "primary support BULwark, remain with a chronic child abuser. Peter
Jaffe fails, completely fails to mention that Parential Alienation Syndrome can
be more damaging than childhood sexual abuse, and Jaffe is effectively promoting
that children be left with the parent found by the court to be a perpetrator of
the some of the worst form of Child Abuse, simply because he is obsessed with
promoting the views of extreme feminists, that have as a centre of learning,
Queens University located in Kingston, home of several extreme feminist judges
who grant mother's almost any crazy order requested. and who engage in prolific
and obvious Parental Alienation.
Readers should carefully note, that Peter Jaffe fails to mention the harm that
Parential Alienation Syndrome causes. Instead Peter Jaffe says "the courts
should intervene early", a court that he knows is riddled with extreme feminist
Family Court Judiciary where an objective impartial court is the last thing a
father is likely to find. Its a refuge for mothers who have no hesitation in
engaging in the very worst forms of child abuse, Parental Alienation Syndrome.
In other words, Peter Jaffe suggests a solution that he knows is not a solution
to the problem. Peter Jaffe knows that Parental Alienation Syndrome is often
only dealt with after hundreds of thousands of dollars in litigation that only
the wealthy can afford. Many children grow up to have similar personality
disorders, as their parent male or female who engaged in Parental Alienation
Syndrome. Peter Jaffe's publications are regarded by most victims of Parental
Alienation Syndrome as a promotion of hatred towards men and in this case, also
mothers who are victims of Parental Alienation Syndrome. Child abuse is child
abuse weather it be childhood sexual abuse or what is often even worse, Parental
Alienation Syndrome.
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Peter Jaffe mistakenly believes that a mother's fertility, ability to
reproduce, give birth is somehow a trump card when it comes to family court
litigation.
Child Abuse, one of the worst most damaging, more than sexual abuse is Parental
Alienation Syndrome. Our feminists need to understand that little girls who grow
up without a daddy are at high risks of developing identical personality
disorders as their mother who most probably was "damaged goods" as a result of
her own childhood abuse.
The multiple generational problem of child hood abuse can generally only be
solved by placing sole custody with the father absent evidence that this is not
appropriate.
The root solution is a Legal Presumption of Equal Parenting After Separation and
in particular, legislation to deal with separations. Presently, Mothers planning
Parental Alienation, simply flee with the kids and refuse to allow dad any
contact, and lay fabricated criminal charges to create a bias, prejudice and
status quo. The only solution is that "Absent a court order" both parents shall
have equal time with the children from separation and any failure to abide by
that will entitle the other parent to an emergency motion on short notice.
The problem at present is, courts due to the lack of an equal parenting
assumption, are swamped and courts refuse to have "emergency hearings" absent an
extreme physical danger.
Don't expect any changes or improvements soon.
Latest word is The Ontario Government is planning
NEW RESTRAINING ORDER LEGISLATION
with DRACONIAN IMPLICATIONS
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Judicial Tip #2 for today. Our courts are clogged from the very tip of the
top to the bottom lowest form of life, that self represented male asking for
access or responding to a summary motion / restraining order / security for
costs / vexatious litigant, you know, those low former of life called father's
who dare to ask you to have empathy for their child's right to have a
relationship with their father.
Most of the Parental Alienation is done by a parent with a serious personality
disorder, often highly skilled, highly qualified , semi professional actors with
a great deal of support in the way of resources. Most of those parents who
engage in this form of Chronic Child Abuse are women, with serious personality
disorders, often its a combination of a mental health problem and a personality
disorder and any variation and combination between.
Throw in a judge with a disgusting propensity to flagrantly abuse judicial
discretion by granting nasty mothers total control and you have probably
guaranteed one or more future generations of dysfunctional people who grow up
with their parents personality disorder.
Peter Jaffe, if he really cared about children would be providing the court with
reliable solutions to an obvious problem created by Extreme Feminists and a
generally corrupt feminist judiciary who stoop at nothing to make draconian
orders against those they don't like and exercise their revenge for these sorts
of public statements that they don' t like. Interestingly, good judges don't
give a vermins rear about these comments, they agree with them and sit there
with a large smile on their faces, they have to work with the vermin who rely on
the "eXpert dribble of feminist deliverers of propaganda.
Lets cure the cause, Parliament needs to legislate a mandatory presumption of
equal parenting, children with equal time stand half a chance of recovering.
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